Hello!
We all get or feel stuck from time to time. Here are some tips to free yourself and get in the flow again!
Why do we get stuck int the first place?
I have found that one of the most common reasons is a disagreement between our heart and mind or brain. As we grow into adults everything we are taught is to use your brain and disregard your heart, your intuition or feelings. Some of us are naturally more connected to our feelings and others of us are not, but regardless, you can still connect to what your heart wants. And it's important to do so, because when we allow all of our decisions to made with our brains, we miss out out of growth through challenges, experiences and yes, even mistakes.
Mistakes are important to our growth!
I don't know anyone that likes making a mistake! But oddly enough, that is how we learn. When we put our brain in charge of all of our decisions, we are choosing the safe route, the boring route, the route of dead ends and unhappiness. Because your brain will choose those options over the fun, silly, exciting or spontaneous routes. And after a while your very smart and calculating brain will have created what the spirit guides call a velvet prison.
Your Very Own Velvet Prison!
When we make everything just so, or try to control as much as we can so things "run smoothy" we end up creating a velvet -meaning nice and soft and comfortable- prison. A conformable place to be locked away from challenges etc. But your heart wants to know and experience fun, love, passion, joy, elation and it willing to risk the pain of rejection, loss and grief to get those things. But we put our brain in charge of making decisions so our hearts desire is on terminal hold. And that's when things can go haywire!
Truth: When your heart & brain are not on the same page you're STUCK!
Eventually, your heart says ENOUGH, I want to FEEL and experience things. I am ready to risk pain to feel love or elation. Your brain disagrees and therefore you are stuck and cannot make a decision or find energy to move in any direction.
What do I do now?
This is not an quick fix, it does take some will power and being ready to face & be open to what your heart wants. These desires, needs, dreams and ideas have been locked away for a long time and it will likely take more than 5 minutes to figure this out. But once you crack the door even a little to what your heart wants, that energy will start to seep out and will have an effect on you in subtle ways you may not even notice. So just reading this post can be helpful!
5 Steps to connect your heart & brain & become less stuck!
1. Ask your brain what it wants. Prep is important, please set aside private time to think about this. You can think about it in the shower, on a drive or while doing a hobby. We're "thinking" because, lets face it, your brain is the block. So we want to talk to ourselves and just be casual, asking what could our heart possibly want? Let your brain talk back about how the heart let you down when you trusted that person, fell in love with the wrong person, gave too much and got nothing back etc. But guide your brain to see that you LEARNED things and even had some beautiful memories- it wasn't all bad. See if you can come to some new understanding about what went wrong in the past and how you're much less likely to make those mistakes again.
2. Ask your heart what it wants. This is the TRICKY part. Because what your heart wants or even what your heart feels it hasn't healed from- has been hidden- sometimes for decades! But I promise you that hiding or locking away a problem, only makes the problem active in your life in ways you don't see. Sit down when you have time and space - you can do this from your car, a park, in the bath tub, anywhere as long as you won't be interrupted. Please follow these instructions for the best outcome. Write down anything that comes to you: Imagine what's hidden in your heart, what dreams, fantasies, desires are there? What makes your heart happy? Write a list. It's super Important to not judge, think or go off on what it or only if I hadn't met that person, gone to school, etc. We are only staying in the moment! No judgement! The do the same with hurts, fears etc. Stay in the moment and just write it down.
Then say to yourself, I love you, I bless you, I forgive you. and put the pen down and close the journal. This session is complete. remember to stay away from judgement. Let it all go.
3. Now you can start negotiating with your brain and your heart using what you learned. Maybe your heart wants to do more fun things, but your brain is saying we don't have the money- so problem solve this. Find fun things to do for free. The powerful thing about starting this exercise is that even doing a little thing can release the stuck energy in a different area of our life! Get the energy flowing in one area affects everything else in your life. And it raises your vibration which brings in people with higher vibrations which helps you move forward.
4. Taking the time to seek and be open to what is hidden will help you know what is keeping you stuck and unhappy. Once you shine some light and awareness on your hidden desires, hurts and limited thinking, you will be free of your velvet prison in no time.
5. Take baby steps, this situation did not happen overnight. It may take days, weeks- even months to work through these things. You may want to seek some professional help through a coach or a therapist so you don't get sucked into old habit of dealing with these triggering things. Pay attention to the energy and not just the exact idea of the dream or joy idea. If you always wanted to be something and now it's too late in your life, don't give up on it. That's how we get stuck. What way can you experience a similar feeling doing something else? If you wanted to be a professional singer or artist, psychic or even doctor, how can you experience a similar feeling -energy doing something else? Singer- take or teach singing lessons, join a choir etc. Artist, take classes, teach basic art to kids, find a way to do art and feel good and appreciated for doing it. Psychic: We are all psychic! But we are all different in our abilities. Take classes to see where your strength's are, practice on others, you cannot know how psychic you are by reading yourself! It doesn't work that way. BELIEVE in yourself!
Doctor: learn Reiki, or other energy medicine and help people.
Take really good care!
Susan Lynn
Psychic Medium